Ada — OK, now that I know that I have been lied to all these years about how to define myself, how do I make the truth that I now know a real part of me?
Let’s review. Because of what Jesus has done for me, I am totally forgiven, pure and without blemish. I am fully accepted by God, regardless of whether others accept me or not. There is no legitimate basis for guilt or shame of my past, and I no longer have to fear punishment from God.
I am not defined by what I accomplish or achieve. Therefore, I no longer have to deprive myself, or my family, of quality relationship time. I no longer have to put my mind, my body, or my close relationships at risk because of my drivenness.
My time here on earth is short, and I want to make the best use of it for things that really matter. What really matters is a loving, tender relationship with God, and loving, tender relationships with those that God brings me in contact with each day.
Let me introduce you to the fastest way I know to turn a truth into a belief. It is called the Pillow Technique. Here is how it works. Take your new truth and write it on a card. For instance, “Because of what Jesus has done for me, I am deeply loved, totally forgiven, fully pleasing, accepted, and complete in Him.”
Next, spray the card with the smell of your favorite cologne or perfume, and place it on your pillow. That way, you have to pick it up before you lay down. Read it out loud to yourself six or seven times and then place it somewhere that you will have to have contact with it the next day (e.g. on top of your toothbrush, car keys, etc.)