- Ada, Oklahoma

September 18, 2013

Party honors Dorotha Stiles for her 90th birthday

Dorothy Milligan Byng Correspondent

Ada — Her birthday wasn't until 9-11, but since the weekend is a more convenient time for party-ing, Terry Stiles chose to honor his mother, Dorotha, with a colorful party Saturday afternoon at Baptist Village.

Guests included family, friends from Owl Creek Penecostal Church and First Penecostal Church, Ada, neighbors from Byng  where she made her home for 60 years,  and friends she has acquired since she moved to Baptist Village almost five years ago.  

The events  included the following poem authored by her sister, Joyce Scroggins:  It is titled “For a Very Special Lady”

On Sept. 11, Dorotha Abbott Stiles 

Will be ninety years young.

Yeah, that is really true!

It’s not a slip of the tongue!

She’s the oldest of eight children 

Born to Monroe and Jessie  Abbott

She raised two boys of her own

 With them, she learned a lot!

She’s learning still, with the Grandkids

And the Greats, loving them all!

Plus two precious daughters-in-law

Who are there at her beck and call!

Let me say, on a more personal note

I’m so glad that she is a part

Of my family, and we honor her today

And show her love from the heart!

Another sister, Jean Sims, was present. Both live in Moore.  A brother,  Richard Abbott, lives in Duncan.

Dorotha  attended grade school at Egypt Community and graduated high school at Latta. She married Herbert Stiles Jr. when they were 19.   He was employed at the glass plant for 37 years.  She worked three years at Byng school cafetetria but, for the most part, she was a stay-at-home mom for their two sons, Terry and Larry. She always enjoyed cooking and she enjoyed owning and operating a restaurant in Ada after the boys were gown.

She and her husband were involved in a one-car automobile accident and had the terrifying experience of being trapped for more than 30 minutes upside down until EMT arrived.  Both were hospitalized, but Herbert was injured more severely. He sustained back injuries as long as he lived. The couple sold their house at Byng and bought a place in Ada. Following his death, she moved to Baptist Village where she still maintains her reputation as an extraordinary cook, though she says she now limits her culinary skills to pies and cakes.

Dorotha laughingly says that she is getting close to becoming a bionic woman. She has the distinction of possessing two artificial knees and two artificial hips.  As a matter of fact, last spring she fell and fractured her man-made hip.  She had surgery a second time and spent two months in a rehab facility at Shawnee, but she was determined to resume her normal active life, and she has been able to achieve that goal.  She kept her pick-up truck and drove until two months ago.

I think I enjoyed Dorotha’s birthday party almost as much as she did.  I saw several people from Byng. Both Terry and Larry had been students of mine and Sharon Pierson Anson was in my ninth-grade English class the first year I taught at Byng. It’s always great to see kids I knew and loved when we were much younger.


I’m looking forward to attending an end-of-summer chuck-wagon dinner and live music event on Sept. 27, 7-9 p.m. hosted by my favorite bank, Byng Oklahoma Heritage.

The event is the brainchild of Pete Cantrell who became a director at the OHB last spring.  One of his first suggestions was “Let’s invite the entire Byng community to a 'dinner on the grounds.'”  He explained that "dinner on the grounds" was an old southern custom where church folks brought their covered dishes, and after worship services, they’d spread their dishes on tablecloths on the ground and everybody would enjoy a good meal together.

After considerable discussion it was agreed that the entire community would be invited, but they would be seated on chairs and at tables in tents on the vacant lot west of the bank.  The OHB staff will be cooking hamburger and hotdogs on the bank’s Ole’ Smokie grill.  Soft drinks and all the fixin’s will be provided by the OHB.


I’ve mentioned  before that I always celebrate my birthday for at least a month.  

Last Sunday my two nieces. Cindy and Amy Krosp and Amy’s husband, David, came from Oklahoma City.  They arrived in time for Sunday School at New Bethel.  After church we had a delious meal and did  some great visiting.  They lived with us for six years, and Cindy graduated from high school at Byng.