How do two people do it? Unquestionably, many factors are involved. But one in particular is absolutely essential, as is revealed in a story told by Ravi Zacharias, the great Christian apologist. As a young student, Ravi said his professor made the comment that “Love is hard work.” He said he leaned over to his friend and fellow classmate and whispered, “I don’t agree with that characterization of love!”
“Why don’t you tell him?” his friend whispered back. Ravi said, like a fool, he did. He stood up and said, “Professor, I do not think you are right in saying love is hard work.”
Surprised at the interruption, his professor asked, “Are you married, Mr. Zacharias?”
No,” Ravi admitted.
“Then shut up and sit down!”
And so it is. My parents used to have disagreements all the time, often loudly so. But in the end, after all of it had been expressed and after sufficient time had passed, their contentious episodes always ended in equally loud laughter.
I’m not a marriage councilor, nor would I pretend to be. But from personal experience it seems to me successful love often comes down to a certain kind of work ethic.