- Ada, Oklahoma


February 11, 2014

Where is my soulmate?

Ada — What do we want to do with the idea of a soulmate? It is such a romantic and appealing concept. To find that one person that was intended for us- that completes us. 

To find that person that we just click with- that doesn’t take any real effort to love or be loved and understood by.

It appears that at one time the whole world was going through a romantic era. Other cultures went on to the next era, while the United States clung to the beliefs and principles of romantic thought. 

We developed huge industries based on romantic thought- cosmetics, clothing, movies, TV programming, books, magazines, gym memberships, weight loss products and programs, TV commercials, cosmetic surgery, and throw-away marriages.

Our culture seems to support the idea that if the relationship becomes too hard or develops “irreconcilable differences,” it is OK to let that relationship go so that you can be free to find your real soulmate- that easy one. This belief has been around long enough that it is hard to see it for what it is- a contrived and destructive notion.   

It is a belief that gives cultural support for dissatisfaction in a marriage and justification for divorce. What do you think about that?   

The alternative is a belief system that recognizes a committed relationship as a committed relationship- that gets worked on diligently and consistently, with assistance from others if needed. It requires an understanding of the principle of entropy.

Entropy is the natural tendency of a living thing to decay and die. As long as the living thing is growing it does fine. But, if growth stops, then entropy takes over and the living thing begins to decay and die. Flowers grow until they “mature.” 

When the growth stops, the flower begins to die. Our muscles and our minds accommodate the same law. When we stop actively growing them, they begin to regress and die.

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